How many boxes can you juggle in life without burning out? Have you discovered the sweet spot that enables you to move swiftly and friction-free between your pots?
Some boxes are more important than others. The core ones stay with us our whole lives whereas the seasonal ones will leave us at a certain stage aka cycle in life. The fundamental boxes are pretty much the same for all of us: health, love in the form of family, relationships and friendships, and career or business.
Is there a main box? And if so, which one is it?
Well, it’s the one that is with us from the first until the last breath we take. It’s the SELF box – not to be confused with the “shelf” box, although more often than not, we place ourselves last.
And then, there are the seasonal boxes as I like to call them. Some of the most prevalent ones are the sports, hobbies, and passion boxes.
Obviously, none of the boxes will ever be 100% pure; in the sense that you will have sports, passion, hobby, health, and love, for example, intertwined.
Stacking or Juggling Boxes – What’s it going to be?
Let me start by confessing that I’ve not figured this out for myself either. More so, I’m not over-analyzing or obsessing with it, as I think we’re here to experiment and try out as many things as possible.
Recently, I published an article on the Hive blockchain where I shared some insights about the act of balancing my core boxes in life. I defined my three main pots as health, family/relationships/friendships, and business. Furthermore, I shared Baroness Karren Brady’s three boxes which are similar to mine, except that she has “self” instead of my “health” box.
Yes, we can argue whether health is part of the “self” box and so forth, but that’s not the point of this topic. What I want to emphasize, is the importance of the following two aspects:
1. Knowing your boxes
2. Consciously choosing between boxes
How often have you tried to multi-task and have gloriously failed at it?
If the answer is “always”, you’re at least not lying to yourself.
This is where the SELF box comes into play. Investing time into knowing ourselves is crucial. As we move along in life and things get thrown at us aka life happens, we need time to adjust to external factors. This enables us to navigate the stormy waters with a heightened consciousness, without destroying ourselves and those around us.
Let’s tackle the terminology of “truth” in this context.
We all define and perceive truth differently. There is no universal truth albeit there are physical laws that apply to our physical reality as well as quantum principles that govern higher dimensions.
I’ve seen the concept of truth best play out in presentations and conversations. A couple of weeks ago I was part of an exercise where we had someone recite 20 words that were associated with going to bed at night. Funny enough, the word “bed” was never mentioned. Instead, words such as a pillow, dreams, snooze, alarm, night, etc. were enumerated.
When asked what words were used, one-third of the audience said “bed”. And here’s the kicker: This very same third of the audience was convinced that the word “bed” was among the 20 words spoken out loud. Even when the words were played back from a recording some of them couldn’t deal with the fact that they were wrong.
So, what’s the truth when we have such discrepancies when hearing a message?
This is why, you can’t project what you perceive as true onto others. What may be true for you, isn’t necessarily true for the person you’re talking to. Furthermore, you can’t expect the person next to you to understand your truth. Doing so, more often than not results in conflict.
What’s truth got to do with boxes?
The most important takeaway here is to be as honest and true as possible with yourself while acknowledging the fact, that your mind will play all kinds of tricks on you.
So, if you can’t trust your mind to tell the truth, whom can you trust?
Maybe your heart?
How often has your heart misguided you especially when it wasn’t properly in tune with the mind?
I’ve come to understand, that there is no perfect truth so to speak. The closest truth is the one coming from intuition, given we are vibrating at a high enough frequency that enables our innate intelligence to guide us.
Therefore forcing our perceived truth onto others causes distress and is detrimental to fostering genuine, strong human relationships.
I’ve got two more questions for you before I wrap this up for today:
1. What do you believe to be true that isn’t?
2. Have you asked yourself whether you’re operating from a framework of “truth” assumptions that might be totally wrong?
We are all plugged into this reality with our five senses and the best thing we can do is define our boxes, and consciously choose between them. If we can’t accomplish this task and apply it to our lives, how can we expect the world to become a better place?
If we can’t juggle our boxes without friction, who are we to advise and worse, blame other people as to how they should run their lives?
In the end, it’s all a show and we get to pick and choose the character that we want to identify with. Some choose to extract life’s juices by convincing themselves that they can multi-task several boxes, while others find a way for better or worse to balance their core boxes.
Juggling boxes without friction requires self-mastery. In the end, we’re all here to experiment, experience, and play.